Back in my mindless spending days, I never gave much thought about what I purchased. If I wanted/needed it and had the money, I bought it. In a nutshell, my entire shopping thought process was a bad one. I was a huge emotional shopper, and my stress and boredom led me to the mall every weekend. My closet overflowed, my heart still felt empty and my frustration grew because I had nothing of real value or substance. And therein lies the rub. I was using my money on meaningless things because it had no purpose, leaving me adrift.
Finding The Secret to the Good Life
Do you remember The Secret by Rhonda Byrnes from a few years back? The idea that you could visualize something amazing (or to be fair, bad) into existence by your mere thoughts was a powerful, enticing notion. It was A Field of Dreams come to life! Some bought into the hype; others did not. I fell into the middle because I do believe to a certain extent that what we choose to focus on — abundance or lack — is what we simultaneously create in our lives. In other words, we see what we expect to see.
7 Ways I’m Choosing to Live My Best Life
I never watched The Oprah Show, but I LOVE her magazine. One thing she often talks about is living your best life. Your best life. It sounds amazing, right? My best life would be a little glamorous with elegant dinner parties, walks on the beach, snuggling with Max while I read and a closet full of stylish clothes in a size that feels good. The dream is so alluring but always seems out of reach, especially when I play the comparison game. I’ve spent too much time comparing my life to others or worrying about what they think versus creating the life I want for myself. One of my resolutions this year is to live my best life on my terms.