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Lessons Learned in My 41 Years

Lessons Learned in My 41 Years

August 4, 2016 by Tanya // 13 Comments

I turned 41 last month, which I actually greeted with a fair amount of enthusiasm and hope. I’m still here; I’m still going strong. And not to go all pop princess on you, but I still gotta lotta fight left in me. There was a time when I had none, so I am grateful and celebrate that these old bones of mine still have some pep and verve in them.

I felt very differently when I turned 40. Last year, I was pretty depressed, literally and figuratively. I had accomplished so few of the dreams and goals packed inside of me, wanting to come out, but they were wedged so tight in-between my doubt and fear and wilted into nothing. I am determined to prevent this from happening when I turn 50. Instead, I want to look back and forward with a huge smile on my face and joy in my heart. This is my to-do for tomorrow and every day after, but today I want to share 41 pearls of wisdom, insight, triumphs and yes, even mistakes with you.

I Got 41 Lessons and Beyonce Ain’t One of Them

Bonus points to those who get the reference. ๐Ÿ™‚

  1. You are stronger than you realize.
  2. Beauty evolves and changes over time.
  3. The only person who can truly hold you back is yourself. Don’t let fear own you. Own your fears instead.
  4. Cats rule. I know this to be true because my cat, Max, told me.
  5. Stop seeking approval of others. The only approval you need is your own.
  6. You are enough.
  7. Getting both a perm and highlights is probably too much.
  8. Skinny pants are not meant for everyone. Deal with it.
  9. Love is love.
  10. I have been afraid of my dreams. But now I fear a boring life with no dreams even more.
  11. Social media is fun. But it doesn’t take the place of real connection either. Put down your phone and actually talk and be present with the people you are with.
  12. Strength is not bullying.
  13. What you think does affect your reality. It’s not as simplistic (or easy) as thinking about a million dollars and it falling from the sky, but your thoughts and energy affect how you react and see the world and most importantly — the actions you take.
  14. Gratitude is everything. Don’t give it lip-service though. Be genuine.
  15. Snuggling with your cat (or dog) fixes most problems.
  16. You are not the same person you were when you were 20. You won’t be the same person when you’re 60. Or 80. This is okay.
  17. Don’t wait to live or be happy until you achieve XYZ. There is no guarantee XYZ will ever happen. Be happy and live now.
  18. Live a deliberate, mindful life. #YOLO may sound great but it’s just mindless living, which is ultimately unsatisfying because you too often live as the herd expects versus how you want to live.
  19. Depression sucks.
  20. It’s okay if you’re 40+ years old and can’t parallel park. Cars can do it for you these days.
  21. Stretchy pants are comfortable, but they also help you get fat without noticing.
  22. Sometimes people come into your life for a short period and leave. That’s okay. Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever.
  23. Get rid of your energy vampires. Or at least minimize your time with them.
  24. You can’t save everyone.
  25. Look for beauty everywhere you go. It exists.
  26. Put yourself first. No matter what anyone tells you — it’s not a sin or narcissistic to take care of yourself and know what you want.
  27. Read. And read some more.
  28. Elsa was right: Let it go.
  29. Do something unexpected and unplanned every once in awhile.
  30. Set goals. Otherwise you’re just a hamster spinning its wheel, going nowhere.
  31. Enjoy the moment.
  32. Don’t let people walk over you. Be firm and stand your ground.
  33. Treat yourself.
  34. Say thanks. A lot. Same goes for I love you.
  35. Don’t take everything personally or seriously. Laugh it off.
  36. Celebrate your success. Don’t be shy. Give yourself a big ‘ol pat on the back.
  37. Never be ashamed of who you are, the color of your skin, your sexual orientation or your religious affiliation.
  38. The Goonies is the best movie ever made. And I am a Goonie!
  39. Everyone should, on occasion, eat dessert first.
  40. You can’t do it alone. Everyone needs help. And it’s not weak to ask for or receive help from others.
  41. And finally, in the immortal words of the great Hannah Montana, “Life’s what you make it, so let’s make it rock!” Amen.

To What’s Next

I’m older, wiser and stronger mentally. These are all very, very good things. The world is my oyster and it’s up to me to decide where I want to put my energy. This excites and scares me. For a long time, possibilities didn’t exist in my world. But I see them again and it is on.

What lessons have you learned in your lifetime?

Tanya

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Comments

  1. kathy @ more coffee, less talky says

    August 4, 2016 at 5:47 AM

    YES YES YES. 100000000% yes to all of this post.

    Fear and regret scares me the most so I live my life in a way that when I look back on the years past, I feel none of those things.

    To a great 41st year and many more!

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      August 8, 2016 at 9:27 PM

      Thanks, Kathy! I definitely want to avoid feeling regret when I look back at my years too. Whenever I start to let fear consume me, I remind myself how much fear costs me when I let it direct my choices.

      Reply
  2. Jenn @ Optimization, Actually says

    August 4, 2016 at 9:38 AM

    This is awesome. There’s too many to pick them all out, but the one about being more afraid to not have dreams really resonated. And letting friends be in your life for just a short period, because not everything is meant to last. And owning your fears. All good stuff! And I cannot wait until my car drives me around. I think it’s still a ways off because even after cars are capable of driving us by themselves (which we’re pretty much there), there will still be liability issues while they decide who to blame if your self-driving car crashes into someone and so on, but eventually it will be truly autonomous and that will be amazing!

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    • Tanya says

      August 8, 2016 at 9:30 PM

      Thanks, Jenn! Oh man, I cannot wait until cars can auto-drive, although like you, I figure we’ve got some time before that happens. But I’m gonna nap (I’m like a baby, riding in cars makes me sleepy) and not have to worry about merging, parallel parking and all that crap.

      Reply
  3. Mackenzie says

    August 4, 2016 at 2:51 PM

    Yay, what a fun post! ๐Ÿ™‚ And yes, Goonies is hands down one of the best movies. I must have seen it like a million times. Literally ๐Ÿ™‚

    Yes, depression does suck and cheers to those of us who can’t wear skinny jeans or parallel park! Woo hoo!!!

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      August 8, 2016 at 9:32 PM

      Me too, Mackenzie! Goonies was my favorite growing up and there was a time that I probably knew every word to it! Skinny jeans don’t exist in my world and neither does parallel parking. As I’ve shared with you, I will drive around and around until I find a parking spot that doesn’t require me to parallel park!

      Reply
  4. Tonya@Budget and the Beach says

    August 5, 2016 at 7:00 AM

    I love the whole list but especially #18 and #26. and the goonies is playing for free in on the hermosa beach pier in a couple weeks if you want to come down. I love that movie too. I even took a road trip to Astoria when I lived in Seattle just to soak up that goonies energy!

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      August 8, 2016 at 9:33 PM

      Really? That is so cool. I’ve never done a movie on the beach, which seems wrong, and I may have to check it out. That’s so cool that you got to spend some time in Goonies territory!

      Reply
  5. kristen says

    August 5, 2016 at 2:49 PM

    LOL to the last one. i agree with all of these but obviously #4 is the most true! hahaha

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    • Tanya says

      August 8, 2016 at 9:35 PM

      Thanks to my niece (and nephews although they would probably deny it now), I got to know Hannah Montana and that song – particularly that lyric – has always stuck with me. ๐Ÿ™‚ And yes! #4 is 100000000% truth!

      Reply
  6. texerinsydney says

    August 5, 2016 at 8:42 PM

    These are soooooooo fantastic. So, so, so fantastic. And, I can relate to many of them. Thank you for sharing.

    A couple of lessons that I’ve learned that I could add:
    *own your mistakes; learn and grow from them.
    *seeing live music offers a lifetime of memories.
    *embrace other cultures and people that are different from you.
    *the world needs more care packages.

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      August 8, 2016 at 9:36 PM

      Love all your additions, Erin! And I love music, although I rarely attend any live music shows or concerts and that is a mistake on my part. Something I need to fix!

      Reply

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