I wasn’t going to post today, even though Thursday is my post day. I woke up in a bad mood on Wednesday for no good reason. Nothing bad happened. I had not watched or read the news, so beyond my normal general irritation with Emperor Baby Fists, I wasn’t in hulk-mode yet. But I felt off. Quietly blue and a little sad. With zero energy or interest in writing a post.
And yet here I am.
Because underneath this layer of malaise was the truth. This will pass IF I allow it. It will pass sooner if I do something. It will stick around if I do nothing.
This is me doing something.
4 Easy Ways to Go From Sad to Glad
I want to be clear that I am not talking about depression sad, which is different and more complex, instead I’m talking about the good ‘ol blues. These are the steps that I took to get out of my funk and find my way back to me.
1. Recognize You Had a Nightmare
This is what helped me decide to do something instead of wallowing in my grumpiness. A few months back, I shared with you a very personal dream where I realized how my mind was bullying me when I was at my most vulnerable — fast asleep and in dream land. I strongly suspect this is the root cause of my bad mood yesterday, because I had been feeling really strong and positive lately.
While I don’t recall the dream, my imagination is vivid and my mind can be a real asshat. Just recognizing the likelihood of a nightmare feeding me terrible lies about myself brought me great relief. My mind was testing me and she should have known that I ace all my tests. Bitch, please. Ain’t got time for your games.
2. Go to Gratitude
Gratitude is my go-to but when I am in a funk (and need it more than ever), is also when I am the most resistant to go there. But persist, I did. 😀
10 Things I am Grateful for …
This is my list from yesterday.
- The warm weather (73 degrees!) and beautiful blue skies
- Flip-flops because my toes demand freedom!
- The coolest cat in the world loves me. Yes, he does.
- Show Us Your Books on Tuesday and so many awesome book ladies
- Working on a new client website
- My amazing, supportive family and friends
- Living in the greatest country world
- The yummy chicken pasta dish I made last night with leftovers tonight! Nom! Nom!
- Diet coke. Coffee. Sparkling Juice. Fresh water.
- Alive. Free. Blessed. And Strong.
I inhale the goodness and exhale what doesn’t serve me. Inhale. Exhale.
3. Pick One Thing to Do that Makes You Feel Good
I picked three because that’s how I roll as an over-achiever. My three choices were snuggles with the Max Man, admiring all my cat pins (they are my happy place) and picking a new book to start last night. All things that make me happy and content. It’s hard for the blues to stick around when you’re full of goodness inside.
4. Lean In to Your Bad Mood
I don’t mean you should revel in it and use it to torture others or to gain sympathy by playing the victim. But to be okay with being in a funk or having an off day because they happen. It doesn’t mean you failed somehow. Women, in particular, have been taught by society that we must present a happy face 24/7 and that’s a big, fat lie. Nobody is happy 24/7. We can CHOOSE to be quiet and not shout our unhappiness to world because that is our personal right to be private. But we are allowed to be unhappy or anything besides happy.
So I remind myself that my crankiness is okay as long as I’m not stupid with it. In other words, I avoid shopping because as an emotional shopper, I will spend money on dumb things to temporarily make myself feel better or buy bad-for-me food because I deserve it. I also avoid making big, life changing decisions when I’m in a not-so great place because the best Tanya is the one who makes decisions, not the cranky or the weak Tanya.
But it’s okay to feel blue or off or sad on occasion. It doesn’t mean I’m broken.
Tomorrow is a New Day
Scarlett O’Hara was right: Tomorrow is a new day. I bet my off day will be in the rearview window of life come tomorrow (or technically today). And if for some strange reason it’s not, then that’s cool too. I’ll just start over at #1: You had a nightmare that messed with your head and keep on going because I’m no quitter.
How do you get rid of the blues?