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42 Life Lessons, Deep Thoughts and Musings

42 Reflections (aka 1 More than Last Year)

July 17, 2017 by Tanya // 18 Comments

Yup, it’s that time again. Tanya turns another year older this week (technically on Thursday) and I feel a tad nostalgic, a little wiser and a bit more achy than I care to admit. Listen, people: This getting old thing is serious, serious business. It’s not for the faint of heart or weak of knees. My knees ain’t weak but they do creak, nor is my heart faint, although it does burn more frequently than it did previously. ๐Ÿ˜€

42 Reflections, Deep Thoughts and Musings

Last year I shared 41 lessons for my birthday and I will likely repeat myself fairly often. Why? Because I’m old and forgetful. And I also didn’t learn 42 new lessons this year. Or at least that this old coot can recall. Good gracious, I make getting old sound so damn glamorous!

  1. I’d tell my younger self (and also my current self) to stop sweating the little things. Relax. Chill out. This isn’t permission to YOLO and go nuts. But I agonized over lots of stupid, meaningless stuff. And all it did was take up energy and time. Two things you really value as you age.
  2. You can never stop and say thanks enough times. Say it now. Say it often. And most importantly, mean it every time you say it.
  3. Cats rule. I’m pretty sure I was put on this earth to enable and indulge my feline companions (aka kids). I’m also okay with this.
  4. You should never, ever, wear elastic waist-band pants as your every day, all day pants. Yoga pants may feel great but you will be doing fat dogs versus sleeping dogs, if you’re not careful.
  5. Your parents were right more often than you will ever care to admit, especially to them.
  6. It’s unfairly easy to pack on weight and unfairly hard to rid yourself of those excess pounds. The good news is that you also start to feel strong and proud as you do lose weight, even if it is slow going.
  7. You will fail. I will fail. Everyone will fail. No one is immune to failure, no matter what they tell you.
  8. But don’t give up because you failed either. What makes a person stand apart is not that they never failed (that person is a unicorn) but that you got back up and kept going.
  9. Hate and fear are not only what keeps America from being great but also us on an individual level.
  10. Love is love, is love, is love, is love.
  11. Some days you forget your true age because you still feel 25 and can’t believe your 25th high school reunion is next year.
  12. Some days you almost fall flat on your face because you sat too long and your legs are stiff and sore.
  13. Life is meant to be enjoyed, which differs from person-to-person, but don’t sit on the sidelines. Figure out what brings you joy and do it (mindfully, of course!)
  14. You are braver than you imagined. So much braver.
  15. Everyone has light inside of them. How brightly it shines is up to you.
  16. Coffee is the drink of champions.
  17. Hangry is real. Very, very real. And very, very dangerous.
  18. FOMO is also very real and costly. Plus, frequently stupid. So figure out what brings out your FOMO response so you can manage it. Otherwise you will spend lots of money on crap and yes, even experiences, that ultimately mean very little to you.
  19. No one can survive alone on an island. Find your tribe, squad, community, BFFs of like-minded souls. It doesn’t have to be a big crew but just strong and pure.
  20. It’s okay to admit you don’t know the answer. Or are even, gasp, wrong.
  21. Asking for help does not make you weak. It makes you strong.
  22. Bucket lists are a struggle for me. I understand their purpose but they hold a lot of pressure and judgment within them.
  23. Books are my happy place, especially if a purring cat snuggles up next to me.
  24. I get jealous. This doesn’t make me proud but it’s true. And being honest about my jealousy keeps it from eating me up.
  25. Complacency is the killer of dreams, even more so than fear.
  26. Feminists don’t hate men or the color pink or girlie things. I know this because I am a feminist and I like men, pink and girlie things. Nor do feminists necessarily like men, pink or girlie things. What feminists hate is sexism, misogyny (although I can never spell it correctly the first time) and inequality.
  27. Self care is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. It’s not being selfish. It’s honoring your self-worth and well-being.
  28. I like shoes. I like purses. I like clothes. I like spas. This does not make me bad with my money or a frivolous spender. It means I know where I like to spend my discretionary money, which does not need your approval.
  29. Love should never be feared or hoarded but celebrated. Tell your loved ones that you love them frequently. It’s the best drug in the world.
  30. I once tried on a pair of 5 inch heels and promptly fell into a shelf of shoes. I decided to stick with flip-flops.
  31. I sprained my ankle twice, tripping over a pile of shoes. I still don’t put them away. And I say that I’m not a risk-taker!
  32. My website must be neat and orderly and I will spend hours tweaking an image or lining up something up so it’s just perfect. My house? Not so much.
  33. I remain supremely disappointed that The Jetson’s lifestyle has not come to fruition. The aforementioned house would be spotless if I had a robot cleaning up after me.
  34. A genuine belly laugh is a daily requirement. Most come from chasing after Max.
  35. You can find an excuse to not do anything. You can also find an excuse to do it too.
  36. You are kind. You are smart. You are capable.
  37. When you find something that works for you, keep doing it. Versus saying “Yay! I found something that works” and then quit doing it.
  38. Sometimes the right thing to do is to eat dessert first.
  39. Put yourself in somebody else’s shoes. You don’t have to stay there but understanding why someone believes something is critical to influencing them.
  40. Sometimes I believe the purpose of life is to find purpose and know that there is no right answer and that purpose can evolve over time.
  41. Dream big. Have faith. Be kind. And take action.
  42. I am proud of me. You should be proud of you too.

Happy Birthday to Me

I went through a period where birthdays meant a lot, then meant little and now I’m back to enjoying them again. I appreciate every day on this earth. Not every moment is great (some are quite terrible in fact) but they form my life, which is a very good life.

What are some of your best life lessons or deep thoughts?

Tanya

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Comments

  1. Tonya@Budget and the Beach says

    July 17, 2017 at 6:16 AM

    I definitely think as you move through your 40s you look back on life with much more clarity. Happy Birthday. I’ve heard from a couple people that the 50s are even better. Something to look forward to?

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      July 19, 2017 at 3:03 PM

      Thanks, Tonya! And I agree. When you’re young, everything is so dramatic. Now that I’m older, I’m still dramatic without action, meaning I still whine and pout but then move on. ๐Ÿ˜€

      Reply
  2. Rebecca Jo says

    July 17, 2017 at 8:53 AM

    SO hard to comment on this because I want to comment on every one of them – most of them just saying ‘YES” or “PREACH”… the weight gain to weight loss. Oh girl. You have no idea.
    Yeah – I still wont tell my mom she was right;) haha
    Happy birthday to you lady!!!

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      July 19, 2017 at 3:06 PM

      Thanks, Rebecca Jo! I’ve been on a weight roller coaster most of my life. And in my 20s, it seemed a bit easier to at least lose the weight. Now days, it feels like I work twice as hard to lose halve the weight. But I persist! ๐Ÿ˜€ I mostly mumble and sigh when admitting to my parents that they were right. Because they are nice people, they don’t rub it in too hard, or at least not to my face. LOL!

      Reply
  3. kathy @ more coffee, less talky says

    July 17, 2017 at 1:17 PM

    happy early bday! i love this list, all of it!

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    • Tanya says

      July 19, 2017 at 3:06 PM

      Thanks, Kathy!

      Reply
  4. Mackenzie says

    July 17, 2017 at 1:47 PM

    Happy Birthday Tanya! I will be thinking of you on Thursday when I am celebrating my dad’s birthday as well ๐Ÿ™‚ Cancers and Tauruses definitely get along fabulously!!!!

    I love this list so much! The Jetsons thing made me laugh out loud, ha!

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    • Tanya says

      July 19, 2017 at 3:07 PM

      Happy birthday to your Dad! Fun fact: it freaked me out when I learned my sign was Cancer. Because cancer isn’t generally something people want, ya know! ๐Ÿ˜‰ Man, I really, really wish the whole Jetson’s thing had happened. Robots cleaning up after me would be awesome. I’m a little less sure about flying cars but traffic would be better in LA at least. ๐Ÿ˜€

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  5. No Nonsense Landlord says

    July 18, 2017 at 12:42 AM

    Great list to live by. It’s too bad you cannot get a list like that when you are younger, and more importantly, believe it and live by it.

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    • Tanya says

      July 19, 2017 at 3:08 PM

      Absolutely! It’s one of those cruel ironies, we sometimes have to make the mistakes because we can learn from them!

      Reply
  6. SMD says

    July 18, 2017 at 10:46 AM

    happy happy birthday!

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    • Tanya says

      July 19, 2017 at 3:08 PM

      Thanks, Steph!

      Reply
  7. Nancy @ NY Foodie Family says

    July 18, 2017 at 5:59 PM

    What great reflections! Happy early birthday to you! I hope it and this year is a great one for you!

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    • Tanya says

      July 19, 2017 at 3:08 PM

      Thank you, Nancy!

      Reply
  8. Audrey says

    July 19, 2017 at 5:23 AM

    Great list, friend! Some of these I’ve learned along the way and some I will take your advice ๐Ÿ™‚ Hope you have the happiest of birthdays tomorrow!!

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    • Tanya says

      July 19, 2017 at 3:09 PM

      Thanks, Audrey! Hopefully, I will take my own advice too. Sometimes, to be honest, I don’t!

      Reply
  9. kristen says

    July 20, 2017 at 7:34 AM

    #3 YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSS. haha.
    and omg yes to fomo being ‘Plus, frequently stupid.’ definitely.
    i’m also not good with bucket lists.
    ‘It means I know where I like to spend my discretionary money, which does not need your approval.’ yes. 100 times yes. what i do spend my money is legit no-one’s concern or business.
    love 37 and 38. basically i love this whole list.

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    • Tanya says

      July 31, 2017 at 9:32 AM

      Of course, you and I would see very eye-to-eye on #3!!! I seriously think that’s why I’m here – to love on cats. I had to take a quick break before finishing my comment to give Max a pat. He says “meow!”. ๐Ÿ˜€ I’m terrible with bucket lists. So much pressure. So much judgment. Ugh.

      Reply

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