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3 Myths About Hate and How We Rise Above It

3 Myths About Hate and How We Rise Above It

November 14, 2016 by Tanya // 18 Comments

Disbelief. Confusion. Helpless. Scared. Worried. Anger. Despair. All emotions I felt last Tuesday evening. My body ached in a way I had not felt since the height of my depression. Feeling helpless, I went to bed to hide, to pretend a little bit longer. But I tossed and turned all night, continually waking Max to talk and weep. The poor cat just wanted to sleep. As did I, but that simple comfort alluded me that night.

With the new day comes new strength and new thoughts. Eleanor RooseveltAs a minority and woman, I was never foolish enough to believe that racism and sexism didn’t exist, but I never imagined how strong its hold was on America. And how vulnerable it would make me feel when it was exposed so blatantly and embraced by so many, including those that I love and respect. It stings and robs me of my breath.

And yet, I refuse to kneel to hate. To be silent. To lose four years and let hate further seed and grow roots in this country that I love. I am not perfect. My own prejudices have colored my thoughts, which led to sometimes ugly, misguided choices, so I understand how fear can make hate seem right. But I also grew, expanded my views, listened and became a better person from doing so. I only ask that you do the same.

3 Simple Truths about Hate

For some, this will merely be a reminder. Even better it may galvanize you to stand tall and become a vocal supporter. For others, I hope it makes you think.

People Are Just People

Whether your skin is white as milk or dark as night or someplace in-between, we are just people. If you remove our skin, you’ll find flesh, bones, organs and blood, regardless of skin color or gender. We all have hopes and dreams, hurts and pain, kindness and cruelty inside of us. People are just people, PERIOD. Skin color does not make us better or worse. It is something that we, in fact, have ZERO CONTROL over. I did not choose to be Korean. You do not choose to be Caucasian or Mexican or Lebanese or Polish or Greek or Puerto Rican or African or Italian and so on. You are the product of your parents who are the product of their parents who are the product of their parents until the beginning of time.

#1 Truth: Skin Color Means NOTHING

Judge a person by their actions and behavior, which they control, not by their skin color or gender, which they do not.

The KKK grew from 72 chapters in 2014 to 190.

Source: Southern Poverty Law Center

Minorities and Immigrants Are Not Scapegoats

Solving the very real ills that face America will take more than a catchphrase and there is no magic potion to fix our problems. It will take hard work, focus and some sacrifice to get us back on track. But do not make minorities, immigrants and women the scapegoats to our problems or believe them incapable of solving them.

The Great Recession was caused by greed left unchecked from sub-prime mortgages to Wall Street. It made a potent brew that eventually imploded. And guess what? The largest mortgage servicers — JPMorgan Chase, Wells Fargo, Bank of America, Citigroup — led by white men (except for Citi, which was led by Vikram Pandit in 2008). Wall Street — Bears Stearns, Bernard L. Madoff Investment Securities LLC, Lehman Brothers — led by white men. Minorities, immigrants and women are not to blame and are the very people who can help us recover.

#2 Truth: Minorities and Immigrants Are Not to Blame for Every Ill America Faces. Sometimes, White Men Are Responsible.

Here’s the weird thing: I blame those responsible for their actions, but I don’t fault ALL white men or ALL white people for the actions of a small group or even an individual. Yet, we do that with minorities, immigrants and women all the time. This must stop. I’m tired of taking the blame for Eve eating the apple and refuse to do so any longer. And dear people, of every race and creed, sometimes you have to look at yourself and hold yourself accountable too. Because people (of every color, gender and religion) will prey on your naivety, your hopes, your fears, which is why you must always do your due diligence versus just blindly following someone who says “believe me, believe me” whether applying for a home loan or filling out a presidential ballot.

Safety Pins for Solidarity

Wear a safety pins on your clothing as a sign of solidarity with immigrants and minorities. To let them know you stand with them and are not a physical threat. Source: Yahoo

America is Great Because It is a Melting Pot

Unless you are a full-blooded Native American then you are the son or daughter of an immigrant or are an immigrant yourself. We are so quick to shed our past but that is part of our story and one we should never forget. Our ancestors came here to make their lives and the lives of their children better, just as immigrants continue to do to this day. America is seen as a beacon of hope, the place where dreams come true and the land of the free. And it is made great by immigrants.

Immigrants Who Made Our Lives Better

Immigrants who come to America often have little money but big dreams. These are a few who made it big and changed our lives.

  • Jerry Yang, founder of Yahoo. Born in Taipei, Taiwan, he moved with the rest of his family to San Jose, California when he was eight years old. He knew only knew one word of English: “shoe” when he arrived. Today he’s worth an estimated $1.15 billion.
  • Vinod Dham, the “Father of Pentium”. Born in Pune, India, Dham came to America with $8 in his pocket. At Intel, he helped invent the first flash memory chip. He became the CEO of Silicon Spice, which he sold for $1.2 billion in 2002.
  • Irving Berlin, Songwriter.Born in Russia, his family fled after rising anti-Jewish sentiment. He is famous for songs like White Christmas and God Bless America, which he wrote during WW1 but set it aside until Hitler rose to power. After 9/11, Congressman sang it on the capital steps after the terrorist attacks.
  • Do Won Chang, co-founder and CEO of Forever 21. Born in Korea, Chang worked as a janitor and gas station attendant after arriving in America. Today, Forever 21 is a 480-store empire with $3 billion in sales a year.
  • Sergey Brin, co-founder of Google. Born in Moscow, Russia, Brin and his family emigrated when he was just 6 years old. At Stanford University, Brin met Larry Page and they started Google together. Today, he owns 16% of the company with an estimated net worth of $24.4 billion.

#3 Truth: Our Diversity Makes America a Leader

Let’s get real here: America is diverse and always will be. In fact, it is our very differences and unique stories and perspectives that make America truly great and revolutionary.

Hate is Never the Answer to Our Problems

Hate kills growth, prosperity and freedom. It tears us down and makes us weaker, not stronger. I share 3 simple truths about hate and how it hurts us.Hate is toxic. It kills growth, prosperity and freedom. It tears us down and makes us weaker, not stronger. I know how easy it is to hate because I have hate in my heart too. I am not immune to its power or seduction. It exists in every single one of us. And it’s easy, so terribly easy, to let loose. But in the end, the person you harm the most is yourself. So I understand if you’re scared, afraid and struggling but please, please don’t respond with hate. Minorities, immigrants and women are not your enemies. It is all of us working together that truly makes America great.

The True Answer is …

Talk to one another. For the love of — apple pie, collard greens, hummus, egg rolls, spaghetti and meatballs, tacos, samosas, caterpillar rolls, ropa vieja, paella, zizil tibs, gyros, kimchee, falafel, borscht, lutefisk, jerk chicken, Guinness beer, goulash — let’s talk to one another respectfully. We must stop only engaging with people who look exactly like ourselves and talk to others who look different, sound different and are different. Let’s take a chance and get to know one another. You may be surprised by the similarities you uncover. Let’s rise up and be above hate.

Tanya

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Comments

  1. Mattie Dulka says

    November 14, 2016 at 9:14 AM

    Perfection! That stat about the KKK is horrifying. 🙁

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      November 20, 2016 at 9:42 PM

      Thanks, Mattie. And yes, it is. It boggles my mind.

      Reply
  2. Mackenzie says

    November 14, 2016 at 11:12 AM

    Amazing post, my friend!

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      November 20, 2016 at 9:42 PM

      Thank you for your kind words, Mackenzie!

      Reply
  3. Rebecca Jo says

    November 14, 2016 at 11:13 AM

    I think its sad that people feel the need to wear the pin to show solidarity. I want the world to know everyone stands up for others… but I guess that’s not the case. I dont get it. What is wrong with people?
    I honestly was amazed the KKK even really existed anymore. I thought it was more of a joke at this point & people making fun of it. How gross it is that it has GROWN since 2014. WHAT?!?!?!?!?

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    • Tanya says

      November 20, 2016 at 9:44 PM

      It seems like basic human decency to stand up for others and yet … apparently not. And I didn’t even include the worst stat – which was hate groups as whole have grown dramatically over the past year or so. It’s horrifying.

      Reply
  4. Jenn @ Optimization, Actually says

    November 14, 2016 at 3:16 PM

    Great post! I don’t really have anything to add but I love how you organized and phrased this and I hope this message spreads.

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      November 20, 2016 at 9:44 PM

      Thanks, Jenn! It is my greatest wish that this message spreads too and people recognize the myths about hate.

      Reply
  5. Audrey says

    November 15, 2016 at 8:18 AM

    Ugh. That KKK stat. Disgusting.

    I’m saddened that we’re here are a country. On election night I made a FB status that simple read “I don’t understand” (because I really don’t) and it got a lot of attention. But since Wed. morning I’ve been off FB and I’ve had a safety pin on my purse strap and I’m just looking for all the ways to spread equality and goodness- because it’s something the world will ALWAYS need.

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    • Tanya says

      November 20, 2016 at 9:52 PM

      I’ve been mostly off of Facebook too. I just can’t handle the ugliness, too depressing. I’m also looking for ways to spread the message of equality and love and the fact that hate is just a big lie.

      Reply
  6. Jana @ Jana Says says

    November 15, 2016 at 2:12 PM

    I don’t think there’s a way for this to be more perfect. I love you what you wrote, I love the message, and I love you for writing it.

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      November 20, 2016 at 9:53 PM

      Thank you, Jana. As always, appreciate the support and kind words. This post contains a lot of my heart and I’m glad it shows.

      Reply
  7. kristen says

    November 16, 2016 at 12:27 PM

    100 times yes girl. thank you for sharing. beautiful post.
    you want to know what someone at work said to me the other day? that the immigrants should go back ‘where they came from’ and i said, you know i’m an immigrant right? like, first generation. and he was like yeah but you don’t count. what a jerk, right!

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    • Tanya says

      November 20, 2016 at 9:54 PM

      It doesn’t surprise me at all that someone said to you but it sickens and saddens me so badly. The belief that immigrants are bad, unless they are white. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh. And once someone says something like that – you can’t look at the same. I never could at least.

      Reply
  8. texerinsydney says

    November 16, 2016 at 11:52 PM

    PREACH! This post is pretty close to perfection.

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      November 20, 2016 at 9:55 PM

      Thanks, Erin!

      Reply
  9. kathy @ more coffee, less talky says

    November 17, 2016 at 5:53 AM

    you need to move to canada because our very PM said the same thing — it’s our diversity that makes canada stronger; that exploiting fear and hate has never solved any issue but causes them.

    i LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE x 10000000 this post!! xoxoxox

    Reply
    • Tanya says

      November 20, 2016 at 9:57 PM

      Well, I’m from Minnesota, so Canada and us are already kissing cousins! LOL! Seriously, I think many people are looking at Canada as a viable option! And yay for your PM to recognizing how hate harms and exploits fear in ways that does more harm than good.

      Reply

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